REFLECTION #3
Walker Connor tears us away from the common definition and our conceptual thinking of the word ‘nation’ in quantitative terms, and introduces it to us as something that contains an “intangible essence.” Connor describes this essence as “a psychological bond that joins a people and differentiates it, in the subconscious conviction of its members, from all other people in a most vital way” (Connor, 1978: 379). Growing up amidst the traditions I’ve known since I was a child, it left me little space to question and critically analyze the simple gestures and customs of everyday. As a child, it was easy enough to accept these customs and traditions as a constant in my life without being aware that it is the ‘essence’ of the Filipino people. Coming to Canada 6 years ago, I was presented with a different reality—what I once felt to be so normal and appropriate turns out to be weird and inappropriate on this side of the world. An example of a Filipino tradition not practiced in Western culture would be our dining etiquette, particularly the utensils we use to eat with—the fork and spoon (not a knife!), and our hands.
Even in the Philippines, it is more common to see Filipinos eating with a fork and spoon nowadays than with their hands, because they have been influenced by Spanish, Western and Japanese “visitors” to think that eating with one’s hands is unsanitary and inappropriate dining etiquette. Canadian culture introduced me to dining etiquette that required me to use various sizes of forks and knives. A particular story about a Filipino-Canadian boy in Montreal comes to mind— eleven-year old Luc Cagadoc won a case against a Montreal-area school board and two of its employees who constantly reprimanded him for eating with a spoon and fork at the same time. It went as far as the lunch monitor in his school calling his dining etiquette “disgusting” and “dirty”, and the principal commenting that Luc should learn to eat like other Canadians.
Eating with your hands was not only common, but also traditional. Although Filipinos of today are now well versed in using different utensils, such as knives and chopsticks, Filipinos still acknowledge the custom of kamayan—“kamay” meaning “hand” in most Filipino languages. It is usually Filipinos who are born, raised and living in rural provinces of the Philippines that still eat with their hands, usually at home. There is no clear or precise information on the origins of the kamayan practice, but it is said to have originated from the early settlers of the Philippine Islands—the Austronesians. These Austronesian settlers travelled to the Philippine Islands around 5000-2500 B.C. from Indonesia, Malaysia, Madagascar and Taiwan, and intermingled with the Negrito and Aetan groups who landed and inhabited the islands approximately 23,000 years earlier. This theory is plausible, because the custom of eating with one’s hands is a custom that we share with many parts of Asia, Africa and the Middle East today, with a few differences; for example, in India, they are required to use the right hand for eating. Filipinos are more lenient—we can use the right as well as the left, especially if one is naturally left-handed.
Kamayan has become a practice that distinctly defines Filipino culture. To some, they will say that eating with your hands makes the food taste better. Julie Sahni, a New-York based cookbook author and cooking teacher, grew up in India eating with her hands. She describes eating with one’s hands as a custom that “evokes great emotion” and “kindles something very warm and gentle and caressing.” The emotion and tenderness that Sahni describes is something relatable to all who seek out this cultural experience. As a Filipino, born and raised, it gives me a sense of belonging and a rush of national pride. As Connor accurately describes it, this tradition creates and strengthens my psychological bond to the Filipino people and our heritage. It brings back memories of time spent with family and of the country I still call home.
BIBLIOGRAPHY
http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/montreal/story/2010/04/23/mtl-filipino-boy-tribunal.html
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/18/dining/mind-your-manners-eat-with-your-hands.html?_r=0
http://www.netguard.dk/kamayan.php
http://wikitravel.org/en/Philippines
http://www.philippinecountry.com/filipino_foods.html
http://www.ourpacificocean.com/austronesian_people/index.htm

